Accept vs change reality
Working vs resting
Openness vs privacy
Self improvement vs self acceptance
Independence vs dependence
Trust vs suspicion
Validate yourself vs acknowledge errors
Wants vs needs
Mind vs heart
1- Radical Acceptance
Farmer Story .
Getting angry stops you from seeing what is really happening. (Adrenaline rush , Tunnel Vision)
Accept that the situation did happen and that you have to deal with it.
Being overly critical about a situation prevents you from taking steps to change that situation.
Accept and Be aware of feelings
Keep in mind that radical acceptance does not mean that you agree with bad behavior in others.
Misconceptions:
1- Acceptance is not approval.
2- It is not passivity.
3- It isn't suppression
4- It is a one time thing
5- It is not forgiveness.
6- It is not liking or disliking reality
Self-Affirming Statements
On the mirror, fridge, or computer . It gives you strength, resilience and motivation
“I might have some faults, but I’m still a good person.”
“I care about myself and other people.”
“I accept who I am.”
“I love myself.”
“I’m a good person, not a mistake.”
“I’m good and nobody’s perfect.”
“I embrace both my good and bad qualities.”
“Today I take responsibility for everything I do and say.”
Use Self-Encouraging Coping Thoughts
On the mirror , fridge , wallet or computer . It gives you strength, resilience and motivation
“This situation won’t last forever.”
“I’ve already been through many other painful experiences, and I’ve survived.”
“This too shall pass.”
“My feelings make me uncomfortable right now, but I can accept them.”
“I can be anxious and still deal with the situation.”
“I’m strong enough to handle what’s happening to me right now.”
“This is an opportunity for me to learn how to cope with my fears.”
“I can ride this out and not let it get to me.”
“I can take all the time I need right now to let go and relax.”