Are you stuck in the anxious-avoidant trap and don’t know how to break free? In this video, we share 7 therapist-backed steps to escape the anxious-avoidant cycle and create a more secure, loving relationship. 💚
If you find yourself feeling anxious, chasing a partner who pulls away—or if you’re the one needing space and withdrawing, this is for you!
📌 What You'll Learn:
✔️ Why anxious and avoidant attachment styles create a push-pull dynamic
✔️ The 7-step process to heal and move toward secure attachment
✔️ How to change relationship patterns and avoid emotional roller coasters
✔️ Real-life example: Tehrina & Joel use the 7-step relationship inventory
✔️ Practical strategies you can implement today!
👉 Download our free guide, Must Haves and Deal Breakers, to help you clarify what you need in a partner or friendship: http://eepurl.com/iT8Kx-/
🔗 Watch Next:
👉 Understanding the Anxious-Avoidant Trap
👉 Healing Your Core Wounds & Attachment Style
👉 Must Haves & Deal Breakers - How to Create Your Ideal Relationship Vision
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00:00 Intro
00:38 Understanding the Root of the Dynamic
01:52 Identifying Your Relationship Model
02:52 Pets as a Secure Relationship Model?
04:35 The 7-Step Relationship Inventory
04:56 Step 1: List Past & Present Partners
05:01 Step 2: Write About the Relationship & Identify Patterns
05:11 Step 3: What Triggered Activation or De-Activation?
05:32 Step 4: What Did You Do, Think, and Feel?
06:47 Step 5: How Did Your Attachment Style Shape Your Response?
07:50 Step 6: How Did This Reaction Hurt You or Your Relationship?
07:59 Step 7: What Secure Attachment Strategies Can You Adopt?
10:23 Demonstrating the Model in Action
15:43 Finding a Secure Middle Ground
16:30 What if Your Partner Isn't Ready to Change