This video is about an abusive fundamentalist christian marriage book I read while engaged called “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs. I share ways that its harmful messages negatively impacted me as a 21-year-old and contributed to the domestic violence in my family growing up. I also discuss the book’s strict gender roles and explain why I believe everyone of all genders need both love and respect in romantic relationships. Thanks so much for watching!
Content Warning: This video includes discussions of domestic violence.
[Polyamory & Ethical Non-Monogamy]
Purity to Polyamory podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/25JHTaEXf0aCqQ4cCVbfev
Purity to Polyamory instagram: https://www.instagram.com/puritytopolyamory/?hl=en
“What Is Ethical Non-Monogamy?” By Ariane Resnick: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-ethical-non-monogamy-5176515
“What Ethical Non-Monogamy Is and Isn’t” by Sian Ferguson, medically reviewed by Dr. Jennifer Litner: https://psychcentral.com/health/ethical-non-monogamy-polyamory
[Christian Criticism of Love & Respect]
“Emerson Eggerichs Book Enables Abuse—Often Leading to Divorce | The Life-Saving Divorce” by Gretchen Baskerville: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZ3rqe9m--E
“Emerson Eggerichs Gaslighting Abuse Victims in a Sermon Series” by Shiela Wray Gregoire: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTO9DYBkjXw&list=WL&index=6
[Focus on the Family]
Fundie Fridays video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XYU_-8lwR6Q
My Purity Culture video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmTqXDuDLmk
My Sexual Shame video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qvPRPcEXy0M
[Timestamps]
00:00 - Introduction
00:55 - Marriage & Relationships
03:38 - Core Messages
10:00 - Gender Roles & “Differences”
15:46 - Patriarchal Hierarchy
20:29 - Authority & Abuse
26:36 - Friendship & Sexuality
31:14 - Go to therapy, Eggerichs
36:48 - Love & Respect for ALL
[Background Music]
Title: Warm
https://www.hooksounds.com
Image Description: Elly- white with brown eyes- is wearing a light purple sweater and her brown hair in a ponytail. She is sitting on her bed as she talks to the camera in front of a string of colorful holiday lights. There are screen shots and videos throughout the video that correspond to the content mentioned.
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