AITA For Excluding My SIL From Family Gatherings Because She Has Kids. Because Of This...

AITA For Excluding My SIL From Family Gatherings Because She Has Kids. Because Of This... ----- AITA For Excluding My SIL From Family Gatherings Because She Has Kids. Because Of This, She Wouldn't Even Let My Brother Come Without Her ----- I (28F) have always been childfree and host adults-only family gatherings, a long-standing rule that everyone respected—except for my sister-in-law, Amanda (31F). She saw it as a personal attack, insisting I was excluding her and my brother Jake (32M) by not allowing their two kids to come. She accused me of being a "kid-hater" and even pressured Jake to cut contact with me. My parents backed me up, saying my house, my rules, but the tension kept growing. Trying to be fair, I offered a compromise: one kid-friendly gathering a year. But when I told Amanda, she exploded. She accused me of being manipulative and trying to “steal” Jake from her, claiming I had always been his favorite and never respected their marriage. When I told Jake, he admitted that Amanda had been jealous of our sibling relationship from the start and had been trying to isolate him from me and the rest of the family. Then, things got worse. Jake started opening up and revealed that Amanda controlled every aspect of his life—monitoring his phone, tracking his location, and demanding constant check-ins. He hadn’t even realized how limited he had become. But after our conversations, he began attending family events without her, which made Amanda furious. She blew up his phone, harassed our parents, and even told my mom, “He should be with me, not you.” That’s when it all clicked—this was never about the kids. It was about control. Now, Jake is questioning everything. He wants more independence, wants to make his own choices, and is finally seeing just how much Amanda has isolated him. As for Amanda, she blames me for everything. But honestly? If a simple “no kids” rule was enough to break all of this apart, it was never solid to begin with. ----- #redditfamily #reddit #familyrelationships #redditstories