AITA For Thinking My Husband Is Taking Advantage Of Me Financially. He Constantly Spent As Much...
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AITA For Thinking My Husband Is Taking Advantage Of Me Financially. He Constantly Spent As Much As He Wanted On Himself, And I Even Had To Buy Us Groceries
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This is the story of a woman who spent years financially and emotionally supporting her boyfriend, Jake, only to be taken for granted and gaslit at every turn. In the beginning, Jake seemed responsible—quick to repay borrowed money—but over time, he began borrowing constantly, taking longer to pay her back, and prioritizing others, like his mother, over her. Meanwhile, he freely spent on himself, using credit cards to justify purchases like sound equipment, phones, and even a drone, all while claiming he was broke and couldn't afford shared expenses like groceries or takeout.
When she tried to address the imbalance calmly, he accused her of nagging or acting like a loan shark. At one point, he even started tracking only her spending in a spreadsheet, conveniently ignoring his own expenses. He claimed that her purchases were personal and needed to be compensated, while his were exempt because they were made with “his money.” The double standards became unbearable.
Eventually, she reached her breaking point. She laid everything out—transactions, receipts, promises to repay—and confronted him with years of evidence. At first, he laughed it off, then got defensive, accusing her of “counting love.” But when faced with the undeniable truth, he went silent. For the first time, he admitted he hadn’t realized how bad it looked, and that he thought he was helping, when in reality, he was dragging her down.
They talked for hours. No yelling, no accusations—just honesty. The next day, he made an effort: suggested a shared budget, offered to begin repaying debts in small steps, and finally stopped invalidating her emotions. It wasn’t a perfect fix, but it was the first time she felt like they were on the same team.
In a quiet moment that symbolized the shift, he offered to buy dinner—no complaints, no calculations, no guilt attached. After years of being treated like her money didn’t matter, that small gesture felt like a miracle.
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