I am so excited to have author, podcaster, and fellow therapist, John Kim, on the show to do something special: we're both interviewing each other about our new books!
John's is _Break Up On Purpose: A Catalyst for Growth_, and during this conversation we touch on why break ups can be fertile soil for growth, codependent behavioral patterns, the changes John is seeing in the dating world, and so much more.
I hope you enjoy this conversation with John as much as I enjoyed having it.
Time Stamps
0:00 - Quote from John
0:21 - Introduction
3:22 - "I don't want anything from you"
4:23 - High-functioning codependency
7:44 - Is codependency baked into young love?
10:19 - Inspiration for Break Up On Purpose
11:47 - Examining the end of a relationship
16:10 - How Terri got her start
20:47 - Experience of writing books
22:55 - Single on purpose
24:10 - Dating trends
29:54 - Telling the truth about what you want
31:04 - What does love look like?
If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos
https://youtu.be/Gcxh_JKORXI - Can't Move On After A Breakup? What You Need to Mourn
https://youtu.be/msr0MnQWCRM - Confused About Your Relationship? How to Tell If You Should Stay or Leave
https://youtu.be/JqdCXjxM7MQ - The High Price of High-Functioning Codependency
https://youtu.be/bPSNBn_V9vM - How to Liberate Yourself From Over-Giving
About John Kim
John Kim is a licensed therapist, speaker, and author of best sellers, "I Used To Be A Miserable F*ck" and “Single. On Purpose." He is a writer for Psychology Today among many other publications and has been featured in The New York Post, NPR, Armchair Expert, Vice, and currently has a television show in development at ABC based on his life. John changed the temperature of therapy twelve years ago, after going through a divorce. He started a blog called The Angry Therapist and quickly built a devoted following of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media. He pulled the curtain back and showed himself by practicing transparency and sharing his story, something therapists are taught NOT to do. Kim became known as an unconventional therapist who worked outside the box by seeing clients at coffee shops, on hikes, and in gyms. He comes with you instead of at you.
Today he lives in Altadena California raising a daughter with his wife. He writes books, sends daily texts, and still rides his motorcycle to coffee shops to help people rewrite their stories.
Book: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/break-up-on-purpose-john-kim?variant=42305553956898
App/Community: https://singleonpurpose.life/
@theangrytherapist
IG: https://instagram.com/theangrytherapist
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/
Connect With Me
Instagram: https://terricole.com/ig
Membership: https://terricole.com/tcm
Newsletter: https://terricole.com/newsletter
Resources
Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: https://hfcbook.com
Boundary Boss Book: https://amzn.to/44DZID9
The Boundary Boss Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Ra7CRU
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BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/terricole
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