I am so excited to have psychologist, author, professor, and minister, Dr. Thema Bryant on the show to talk about her amazing new book, Matters of the Heart: Healing Your Relationship with Yourself and Those You Love.
I've been following Thema on Instagram for years and I love, love, love her work. When I saw she had a book coming out, I knew I had to invite her on!
We're both passionate about healthy relationships and I had so much fun talking to Thema about codependency in relationships and friendships, how to manage it, taking responsibility for our 50%, the loneliness epidemic so many folks are experiencing, and more.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
Time Stamps
0:00 - Quote from Dr. Thema
0:36 - Introduction from Terri
3:32 - Dr. Thema's origin story
5:18 - The loneliness epidemic
7:47 - Control issues in relationships
9:48 - Codependent relationships
12:50 - Healing wounds while in relationships
15:10 - Love languages
17:05 - Emotional availability & connection
21:16 - Acting it out vs talking it out
22:23 - Unreciprocated love in dating
27:21 - Connection for everyone
30:00 - Dr. Thema's boundary struggle
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https://youtu.be/ifQa9VcIppg - How to Find Joy in Relationships with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
https://youtu.be/peGdJrfvu6g - Heal, Grow, and Thrive in Your Relationships with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
About Dr. Thema Bryant
Dr. Thema Bryant is a psychologist, author, professor, sacred artist, and minister who is leading the way in creating healthy relationships, healing traumas, and overcoming stress and oppression. Dr. Thema is the author of the soon to be released book Matters of the Heart, which aims to empower readers to connect with themselves and to others, delving into topics such as: control issues, emotional unavailability, practical activation activities, case studies, and teaching how to shift mindset and patterns around romance.
Dr. Thema Bryant completed her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at Duke University and her post-doctoral training at Harvard Medical Center’s Victims of Violence Program. Upon graduating, she became the Coordinator of the Princeton University SHARE Program, which provides intervention and prevention programming to combat sexual assault, sexual harassment, and harassment based on sexual orientation. She is currently a tenured professor of psychology in the Graduate School of Education and Psychology at Pepperdine University, where she directs the Culture and Trauma Research Laboratory. Dr. Thema is an ordained elder in the African Methodist Episcopal Church and leads the mental health ministry at First A.M.E. Church in Los Angeles. Most recently, she was the 2023 president of the American Psychological Association (APA) and is the host of The Homecoming Podcast.
Website: https://drthema.com
IG: https://instagram.com/dr.thema
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/
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