Join Darlene Lancer and the She Recovers Foundation and discover the link between shame and codependency!
Discover why shame and codependency are co-occurring issues, plus:
4:05 – How codependency is, at its core, a loss of self or an inability to function from your innate self
4:49 – A diagram of the different conceptual layers we have our "self"
6:02 – The differences between guilt and shame and what they have to do with codependency
9:36 – Some of the beliefs that go along with internalized shame or "toxic shame" (i.e., shame that starts in childhood)
10:37 – The different vicious circles or negative "shame spirals" that internalized shame can cause us to fall into, how to recognize them, and some ways to get out of them
14:02 – The common defenses we consciously or unconsciously employ to avoid feeling shame (such as denial, projection, perfectionism, and avoidance)
16:13 – A diagram of how the weak or insecure self manifests in various codependent symptoms
18:54 – How the core feelings of shame and codependency: anxiety, fear, guilt and a lack of autonomy often manifest
21:45 – How the cycle of emotional abandonment that begins in childhood extends and repeats in our adult relationships
23:00 – Some symptoms of dysfunctional communication and intimacy and shame anxiety
25:44 – The steps to recovery, and some self-esteem goals you can practice each day
... And much, much more!
Darlene Lancer is the author of "Codependency for Dummies," "Conquering Shame and Codependency," and "Dealing with a Narcissist."
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