If He Plays Games With You, Treat Him Like This - Relationship Advice for Women
Have you ever been caught in a cycle where a man is hot one day and cold the next?
It leaves you wondering—is he playing games or just figuring things out?
Many men aren’t intentionally manipulative; they’re simply responding to the level of effort required to keep your attention. So, how do you handle this without falling into a trap of confusion and over-investment?
If he plays games with you, it's time to flip the script. In this video, we’ll break down the psychology behind his actions and how you can respond in a way that puts YOU in control.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Understanding A Man
01:17 Clarity Comes from Action, Not Waiting
03:01 Men Take The Path of Least Resistance
05:14 Remove Access
06:53 Summary
07:50 Conclusion
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:
01. Clarity Comes from Action, Not Waiting
When a man is inconsistent, it’s easy to start overanalyzing, re-reading texts, looking for hidden meanings, and making excuses for him. But waiting for him to “figure it out” wastes your time.
Reality check:
If a man truly wants you, he will make it clear. If he’s unsure, you don’t need to wait around. Your job is to set a standard and see if he meets it.
Instead of: Wondering, “What does he mean by this?”
Try This: Ask yourself, “Is his ACTIONS aligning with my standards?”
02. Men Take The Path of Least Resistance
Men and people are generally wired to get the most results with the least effort. This is not a flaw; it’s just how human nature works.
Example: Imagine he buys you flowers every week, and you reward him with love, attention, and affection. Over time, he realizes that nothing changes when he stops buying flowers—you still give him the same love and attention. So why would he continue putting in effort?
Lesson: He has no reason to step up if you keep rewarding minimal effort. You must create a standard where he understands that effort is required to maintain your interest.
Try This Instead: Instead of complaining, use positive reinforcement:
“I love it when you plan dates—it makes me feel special.”
“You always look your sexiest when you make an effort for me.”
See the difference?
Instead of sounding needy, you’re reinforcing what you want in a way that encourages him to keep putting in effort.
03. Remove Access
If you’ve communicated your standards and been patient, and he still isn’t stepping up, it’s time to remove access.
Ask yourself: Why are you chasing a man who isn’t meeting your standards? Why are you offering your time, energy, and emotions for free?
He has to EARN that access if he wants to stay in your life. If he doesn’t, then removing yourself from the equation will show you his true intentions.
High-value mindset:
If he steps up - Great!
If he steps out - Even better! Because now you’re free for someone who values you.
WHY YOU NEED TO WATCH THIS VIDEO -
This isn’t just another “relationship advice” video. This is about empowering YOU to stop playing games, stop waiting for clarity, and start attracting men who truly value you.
If you’ve been dealing with inconsistency, this video will help you:
1. Recognize when a man is wasting your time
2. Stop overthinking and start taking action
3. Set boundaries that command respect
4. Attract men who match your energy and effort
Make sure to WATCH TILL THE END because I share my final words on transforming your love life today!
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Ismael Gomez III
I'm a Cuban - American Relationship Coach, Author, and Speaker.
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