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Tiger parents settle for nothing less than perfection, and will pay any price for it. In this video, we'll break down this highly controversial parenting style, contrast it with Chinese parenting, and dissect the memoir of the most infamous tiger parent in the West – Amy Chua.
Timestamps
- 0:00 Intro
- 0:59 Tiger parenting vs Chinese parenting
- 17:45 Inside the mind of a Tiger Mother
- 29:14 Using the Chinese parenting style outside of China?
- 34:40 Conclusion
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Academic References
Chao, R.K. (1994). Beyond parental control and authoritarian parenting style: Understanding chinese parenting through the cultural notion of training. Child Development, 65(4), pp.1111–1119. doi:https://doi.org/10.2307/1131308.
Chao, R. K., & Aque, C. (2009). Interpretations of parental control by Asian immigrant and European American youth. Journal of Family Psychology, 23(3), 342–354. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0015828
Chi, J. and Rao, N. (2003). Parental Beliefs about School Learning and Children’s Educational Attainment: Evidence from Rural China. Ethos, 31(3), pp.330–356. doi:https://doi.org/10.1525/eth.2003.31.3.330.
Chua, A. (2012). Battle hymn of the tiger mother. Leicester: Thorpe.
Kim, S., & Fong, V. L. (2013). How parents help children with homework in China: Narratives across the life span. Asia Pacific Education Review, 14(4), 581–592. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12564-013-9284-7
Kim, S.Y., Wang, Y., Orozco-Lapray, D., Shen, Y. and Murtuza, M. (2013). Does ‘tiger parenting’ exist? Parenting profiles of Chinese Americans and adolescent developmental outcomes.. Asian American Journal of Psychology, 4(1), pp.7–18. doi:https://doi.org/10.1037/a0030612.
Ng, F.F. and Wei, J. (2020). Delving Into the Minds of Chinese Parents: What Beliefs Motivate Their Learning‐Related Practices? Child Development Perspectives, 14(1), pp.61–67. doi:https://doi.org/10.1111/cdep.12358.
Ng, F.F.-Y., Pomerantz, E.M. and Deng, C. (2013). Why Are Chinese Mothers More Controlling Than American Mothers? ‘My Child Is My Report Card’. Child Development, 85(1), pp.355–369. doi:https://doi.org/10.1111/cdev.12102.
Ng, F.F.-Y., Pomerantz, E.M. and Lam, S. (2007). European American and Chinese parents’ responses to children’s success and failure: Implications for children’s responses. Developmental Psychology, 43(5), pp.1239–1255. doi:https://doi.org/10.1037/0012-1649.43.5.1239.
Pomerantz, E.M., Moorman, E.A. and Litwack, S.D. (2007). The How, Whom, and Why of Parents’ Involvement in Children’s Academic Lives: More Is Not Always Better. Review of Educational Research, 77(3), pp.373–410.
References
Aswell, S. Scary Mommy. (2023). 12 Years After Her Book Published, The ‘Tiger Mom’ Is Opening Up About Her Regrets. (online) Available at: https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/tiger-mom-amy-chua-regrets.
Yam, K. NBC News. (2024). The dissolution of ‘Tiger Moms’ and the new face of Asian American parenting. (online) Available at: https://www.nbcnews.com/news/asian-america/asian-american-parents-shft-tiger-parenting-gentler-approaches-how-rcna156639.
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