Stalking is about control and, sometimes, vengeance. Hoovering is about co-idealization via re-idealization.
The narcissist, especially the covert narcissist, is submissive with dominant types and dominant with submissive types. It is a way to compensate for the humiliation and rage associated with being submissive. The clinical term is displacement.
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