Let’s face it — women don’t want to feel like you’re giving them everything they want without making them work for it. If you’re constantly showering her with affection, love, and attention without any effort on her part, you’re not making her feel special, you’re making her feel entitled. And here’s the kicker: feeling entitled is the exact opposite of being desirable.
If she feels like she can get your affection whenever she wants, you’re no longer a challenge. She’ll take you for granted. But when she feels like she’s earning your affection, that’s when she starts valuing it.
Think about it: when a woman has to work for your attention, she starts feeling a sense of accomplishment. She feels like she has something to prove — that she can win you over, that she can be the one who catches your eye. And that’s what fuels desire. It’s not about playing hard to get in a childish, manipulative way. It’s about being valuable. And when she sees that your attention isn’t something she can just snap her fingers for, she’ll feel more emotionally invested in earning it.
Now, I’m not saying you should be distant or emotionally unavailable for no reason. What I’m saying is this: you need to value yourself more than you value her validation. Your affection should be something that she has to work for, not something she automatically gets the moment she asks for it.
This means you can’t be the guy who’s always chasing her, always trying to be the perfect man. You need to be a man who’s in demand. She should see that your attention is something she has to earn, something that’s not just handed out to anyone who asks for it. And when she has to earn it, it makes your affection feel far more valuable.
This isn’t about playing games or acting like a jerk. It’s about being a man who’s confident enough in his own life to not bend to her every whim. When she feels that she has to work to keep your attention, she starts to view you as someone special and worth the effort.