Hi Folks. Today was another one of my Special Topic Lectures (did this live on my Facebook Page). The topic today revolves around shame and all its intricacies. I share some vignettes, I read some pieces from John Bradshaw's book, Healing The Shame That Binds You, I talk about the emotion disgust, postural elements on shame, and much more. ENJOY!
Here are some Questions/Topics I discuss in this chat:
8:25 - Example of Healthy Shame
13:52 - Why is Healthy Shame important?
14:50 - Toxic Shame
22:13 - Being raised in a toxic shame environment
24:54 - Example of healthy/toxic shame as a child
28:47 - How do I help my children heal through the trauma?
29:48 - Attachment bond and toxic shame (and affect on parenting)
34:00 - Is Toxic Shame related to Abuse?
35:41 - Unresolved Issues (shame, anger, sadness, etc…) and the effect of it
37:10 - Does SE (somatic experiencing) heal toxic trauma or only shock traumas?
37:42 - Overly ‘needy’ behaviour
41:01 - Connection of shame to disgust
42:41 - Guilt (Moral Shame) and Toxic Shame
46:38 - How to heal from early toxicity, effect on the body (chronic illness).
49:29 - Not expressing emotions can lead to toxic shame
53:24 - Syndromes of toxic shame; introverts, showing no sign of weakness, doing everything yourself, not able to set boundaries, people-pleasers.
57:48 - Disgust, and how we start to work with it
1:01:25 - Emotional deprivation
1:03:51 - Disgust for what happened to you vs. disgust about yourself
1:05:16 - Anger that comes out with toxic shame
1:07:21 - Shame and the Physical Body
1:09:55 - Review of Lecture
1:11:20 - Doing it all on your own (how it can come from toxic shame)
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Resources I mention during this video:
► Drop In Class
https://irenelyon.com/drop-in-class-1
► 21-Day Nervous System Tune Up
https://irenelyon.com/tuneup/
► SmartBody SmartMind
https://www.smartbodysmartmind.com/
►Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw
https://www.amazon.ca/Healing-Shame-that-Binds-You/dp/0757303234
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