In this episode of 'Compassion in a T Shirt,' I tackle common myths about self-compassion, such as the misconceptions that it is self-pity, selfish, weak, or an excuse for bad behavior. I emphasise the power of self-compassion in mental health, resilience, and overall well-being, using insights from my experience with veterans and research by experts like Paul Gilbert and Kristen Neff. The episode also offers actionable steps to integrate self-compassion into daily life, encouraging viewers to see it as a strength, not a weakness.
TIME STAMPS:
00:00 Introduction to Self-Compassion Myths
01:02 Myth 1: Self-Compassion is Self-Pity
03:12 Myth 2: Self-Compassion is Selfish
05:00 Myth 3: Self-Compassion Makes You Weak
06:42 Myth 4: Self-Compassion is a Free Pass for Bad Behavior
08:31 The Real Costs of Believing These Myths
11:27 Overcoming Fears of Self-Compassion
12:25 Practical Steps to Embrace Self-Compassion
13:29 Conclusion and Encouragement
LINKS:
Fears of compassion: development of three self-report measures (Gilbert et al., 2011) https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22903867/
Compassionate mind training for people with high shame and self-criticism: overview and pilot study of a group therapy approach (Gilbert & Procter, 2006) https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/cpp.507
The experience and meaning of compassion and self-compassion for individuals with depression or anxiety (Pauley & McPherson, 2010) https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19785933/
The 'Flow' of compassion: A meta-analysis of the fears of compassion scales and psychological functioning (Kirby, Day, & Sagar, 2019) https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30884253/
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