I had a lot of fun doing this special topic live stream all on self-sabotage, its origins, plus what it takes to start to dismantle and heal these deep seeded nervous system roots. Also shared a lot of great shares around how folks experience their own self-sabotage.
Enjoy! Irene :)
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Here are some Questions/Topics I discuss in this chat:
1:01 - Introduction to self-sabotage
8:00 - Ways of self-sabotage?
10:21 - Ventral vagal aspect (connecting)
12:30 - Staying in abusive/toxic relationships and environments
14:37 - Wearing an invisible mask that keeps us from who we really are
20:06 - Nature healing itself
21:52 - Human system healing itself
24:01 - Believing that we deserve to heal
28:43 - How survival stress begins
31:40 - Wired for disappointment
34:45 - Wired for self-shaming
35:25 - Healthy Shaming
36:31 - Toxic Shaming
39:02 - Wired for shutdown
43:51 - Needing a reward/praise
47:05 - Effects of school
50:47 - Pre-verbal & life force energy
59:59 - What’s the next step?
1:02:31 - Freeze (and in early childhood)
1:09:13 - Compassion for others and ourselves going through dysregulation
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Resources I mention in this Vlog:
► Drop In Class
https://irenelyon.com/drop-in-class-1
► Edgar Cayce
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edgar_Cayce
► George Ivanovich Gurdjieff
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Gurdjieff
► Up & Down Movement Workshop
https://www.updownworkshop.com/
► The Polyvagal Theory. Explained
https://youtu.be/8AnHlx3qZ30
► [Trauma Tips #1] What's the nervous system got to do with it?
https://youtu.be/k4A4_OpbzkU
► Moshe Feldenkrais
https://feldenkrais.com/
► Disgust. The gateway emotion for healing toxic shame
https://youtu.be/2KlV1zD5asw
► Why healthy shame is good for us and toxic shame isn't.
https://youtu.be/TOMCmr3MFyc
► Origins of The ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Study
https://soundcloud.com/irenelyon/origins-of-the-ace-study
► New Thinking About Children Paperback by Po Bronson (Author), Ashley Merryman
https://www.amazon.ca/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504130/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwydP5BRBREiwA-qrCGsaOdS0mS4-fSAuwDzASYkFyn1lbwpxrAwCX-W2nI42VK-HDq56GvBoC3S4QAvD_BwE&hvadid=208348618282&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9000718&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=12109253776488184904&hvtargid=kwd-299124639780&hydadcr=14946_9480928&keywords=nurture+shock&qid=1597361728&sr=8-1&tag=googcana-20
► What is Healthy Aggression
https://youtu.be/tqGsbFjihHo
► Free Resource Centre
https://irenelyon.com/free-resources-2/
► 21-Day Nervous System Tune Up
https://irenelyon.com/tuneup/
► Functional Freeze Explained
https://youtu.be/DmJtHB__ji0
► SmartMind
https://www.smartbodysmartmind.com/
► Yellowstone and the trophic cascade that took place
https://www.nationalgeographic.org/media/wolves-yellowstone/
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