The narcissist does not truly interact with other people because their only form of being is in the false self. When they interact with others, they immediately create a representation in their mind of you. From then on, they only interact with that representation. Everything is filtered through that avatar in their mind.
In intimate relationships, they eventually change the avatar to an enemy.
I'm not certain why this is; why they make inner representations rather than just interacting with people on the outside, but I do hold a lot of value in Prof. Vaknin's opinion.. obviously.. lol.
Obviously, it has something to do with the fact that they are presenting a false self instead of a real self.
I am compelled to post Vaknin's material because I've learned so much. For me, he has made sense of the senseless.
I suppose it takes a super intelligent psychologist, one who is a narcissist himself, in order to properly explain this complicated "disorder of personality development."
NPD is the disruption of the childhood formation of the self. The false self takes its place.
Unique to NPD, the narcissist sees themselves (the false self)  as "internal and external objects. Objects referring to people, or in this case, themselves.
They assess other people's value in terms of how they can use them.
If you think about it, it's like a baby, like a 18 month old baby. A baby doesn't see value in other people's personhood? A baby only knows to seek its needs. 
I remember comparing myself to a fridge when speaking out loud to my diary during my relationship with a Nsrcissist. It's like I'm a fridge he really likes. When he's hungry, he can go to it, and get what he would like to eat. However, he might get tired of the same old fridge after a time, and decided to get a new one.
It's like there's no value in who someone is to them. It is all about what you can do for them. That's what they give value to.
Clip is from original video "Why Narcissists can't "see "you (false self as self object) Conference Presentation."
Link to this original video: https://youtu.be/13WCunSPVLA?si=bjOJVMIqURoJTy1w
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