Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert with over 30 years of private practice experience. She is the author of books such as, ‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety’.
00:00 Intro
02:16 Erica's Mission
05:17 Erica's Background
08:26 Who Are Erica's Patients?
09:49 How Have Social Changes Influenced Parenting?
13:14 Is the Role of a Mother More Important Than That of a Father?
16:44 Why Are Fathers Important From a Biological Level?
21:07 Is Guilt a Bad Thing?
23:34 Erica's Unpopular Ideas About Parenting
25:31 Family Diaspora: Raising Children Without Extended Family
27:45 Can Raising Children Away From Extended Family Be Justified?
28:44 Voluntary Childlessness
29:39 Attachment Disorders
33:54 How Do Attachment Disorders Manifest in Adulthood?
35:08 Choosing a Partner Based on Attachment Styles
36:34 Predicting Relationship Success Based on Attachment Styles
38:07 Does Having More Children Correlate With Neglect?
39:33 Decline in Birth Rates
41:36 What Is Unique About Relationships With Your Own Children?
43:25 What Contributes to Growing Infertility Among People?
46:59 How Did Erica Manage to Balance Work and Motherhood?
49:02 Should Fathers Be the Stay-at-Home Parent?
51:32 Harlow's Study on Rhesus Monkeys
53:52 The Challenge of Motherhood in Poor Socioeconomic Conditions
57:50 Does More Paid Leave Equal Better Childcare?
59:24 Connection Between Upbringing and Success in Adult Life
01:01:54 Ads
01:02:59 ADHD: Why Has It Risen So Much in the Past Decade?
01:08:06 ADHD Kids Are in Hypervigilant Stress Mode
01:10:05 We're Medicating ADHD Wrong
01:11:50 The Top Stressors We're Exposing Our Children To
01:13:54 Is ADHD Hereditary?
01:17:18 Can MRI Scans Spot ADHD?
01:19:15 What's Wrong With Medicating Children?
01:22:06 What Actually Is Anxiety?
01:23:40 The Link Between Stress and ADHD
01:24:47 What to Do if a Kid Screams in a Supermarket
01:28:19 The Different Types of Trauma
01:31:49 Stressful States
01:35:08 Same-Sex Couples Taking Roles
01:36:46 What Happens When Women Are the Primary Breadwinners?
01:41:15 What Should Career-Driven Mothers Do?
01:44:33 Not Everyone Can Do This Stuff
01:47:49 Children Don't Need Other Kids Until the Age of 3
01:49:25 Ads
01:51:23 What's So Important at 3 Years Old?
01:57:57 Can I Repair My Trauma and Brain Past My 30s?
02:01:08 Our Pain and Trauma Are Rooted in Childhood
02:04:58 Is "Daddy Issues" a Thing?
02:08:58 Are We Taking Men's Purpose Away?
02:13:06 Men's Testosterone Drops When They Become Fathers
02:15:28 What Happens When Men Become the Primary Caregiver?
02:18:46 Should We Split Schools Into Genders?
02:21:35 Testosterone Decrease
02:23:36 Raising Healthy Kids in a World of Technology
02:27:10 The Importance of Being Present With Your Child
02:28:12 What Should Employers Do?
02:29:47 Do You Realise How Controversial the Things You Say Are?
02:30:26 The Reason All of This Is So Personal to You
02:33:22 What Does Your Obituary Say?
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