Somatic trauma therapist Elizabeth Ferreira joins me to explore how we can create more secure relationships. We talk about the lessons we've learned from our relationship, the impact of trauma and prior relationship wounds, and how very different people can make things work. Topics include complex PTSD, how to work through disagreements, changing our model of relationships, and learning how to actually support your partner.
I loved this conversation, and hope you enjoy it!
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
1:00 The myth of relationships solving your problems, and self-awareness
4:25 Me, you, and us
14:00 Changing your partner by changing yourself
16:55 Embracing the challenges of vulnerability
23:40 Disagreeing well, making specific requests, and holding space
33:50 Learning how to support your partner
38:00 Five different styles of relationship
41:00 Moving from trying to please your partner to showing compassion
45:30 Love as a choice, and expressing wants and needs positively
49:55 Simply liking your partner
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