Don’t Put up With THIS From an Avoidant (And What To Do)

I explore a common tactic used by avoidants, called "the flip," where they deflect responsibility and make you feel like you're the problem for wanting normal connection. I discuss how avoidants push away intimacy because it feels threatening. I emphasize that it’s crucial to recognize when this happens and to reinforce that your desire for closeness is reasonable. I also highlight the importance of avoidants admitting they have a problem. I advise you to stand your ground, inquire about their resistance, and give them a choice in working towards a healthier relationship.

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SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 Episode Intro
00:10 Introduction to Avoidant Behavior
01:58 The Flip
04:11 Avoidant Power Dynamics
05:33 Gaslighting
06:26 The First Step
07:11 Questioning Yourself
08:55 Standing Your Ground
09:57 What's Their Resistance?
11:13 Give Them Choice

📘 RESOURCES FOR YOU
FREE Shadow Work Journal: https://training.mantalks.com/shadow-guide-download
FREE A Man’s Guide To Ending Codependency: https://training.mantalks.com/codependency
My book, Men's Work: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
Online men’s group, The Alliance: https://mantalks.com/alliance/

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