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💡 Scapegoat Recovery and the 'Cry for Help' Trauma Response: Rebecca C. Mandeville (Family Systems expert and author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed) explains how the 'Cry for Help' trauma response can inhibit the recovery efforts of *some* adult survivors of Family Scapegoating Abuse, yet few have ever heard of this 'fifth' trauma response. She also explains why learning to harness, and appropriately channel, 'righteous rage' / healthy anger can be a critical 'antidote' for both toxic shame and the 'cry for help' trauma response. *See Chapters and Trigger Warning, below.* Book recommendation: The Dance of Anger: https://www.amazon.com/Dance-Anger-Changing-Patterns-Relationships/dp/0062319043
✅ You can purchase my best-selling book on family scapegoating abuse (FSA), 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3sEaqcx. Or buy from your favorite online book retailer via this secure Universal Buy Link (UBL): https://books2read.com/intro2fsa.
0:00 - Intro
01:24 - About the 'Cry for Help' response
04:37 - Behaviors related to the 'Cry for Help' response
05:48 - Does your entire life feel like one big trauma response?
09:44 - How anger / 'righteous rage' can help you get unstuck
11:34 - Moving through feelings of helplessness / aloneness
13:35 - How healthy anger can support FSA recovery
17:39 - Executing your own 'rescue' (and finding support)
🔥Trigger Warning: If you feel activated watching this video, turn it off and perhaps return to it at another time or consult a licensed Mental Health professional. Viewer comments may contain descriptions of child abuse and neglect and can also be activating.
💡In need of some self-care? Read my article, 10 Self-Care Tips to Support Scapegoat Recovery: https://www.scapegoatrecovery.com/2021/09/08/10-self-care-tips-for-adult-survivors-of-family-scapegoating/
Rebecca C. Mandeville is a thought leader and recognized expert in abusive family systems. She is also the author of 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role' and a clinical expert in YouTube's Health Partner Program. You can visit her website at https://scapegoatrecovery.com.
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💡Learn more about my work on FSA, my book, and my FSA recovery coaching services, visit https://scapegoatrecovery.com.
💡DISCLAIMER ONE: This channel's focus is on understanding and recovering from what I named 'family scapegoating abuse' (FSA) and is GENERAL and INFORMATIONAL in its scope. It is NOT a substitute for clinical assessment or treatment. It is suitable for both Adult Survivors and Clinicians. I am unable to advise you on your specific family situation. *READ FULL DISCLAIMER: https://www.scapegoatrecovery.com/youtube-disclaimer/*
✅ Check out more of my videos on FSA: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLXSLEoZOeKOFj7AemJO8PwetRpDfxxyPX
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🔴 NEED HELP NOW? Being scapegoating can be extremely traumatizing. If you feel in danger of harming yourself, this is a list of international hotlines where you can speak to someone: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/ You might also find some appropriate resources here via this site for people struggling with complex trauma symptoms due to personality disordered parenting, etc. https://outofthefog.website/toolbox-1/2015/11/17/complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-c-ptsd
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