The term “gaslighting” originally became popularized from a 1938 film of the same name, starring Ingrid Bergman who is slowly being driven to doubt her own reality because her husband intentionally lied to gain control over her so repeatedly and with so much confidence that she begins to doubt her own sanity. And, in this film like in real life, a bit of Stockholm Syndrome can develop as well: The victim, now uncertain that she can perceive reality correctly, becomes more dependent on the gaslighter than ever.
Unfortunately, gaslighting is not reserved for movie plotlines. It is a form of psychological abuse that happens everyday in real relationships.
Sometimes the gaslighter is doing it intentionally to gain control and power over their victim. And sometimes they have the belief that their reality can and should overwrite their partners. Either way, if you are in a relationship that has you questioning your own memory, perception and even your sanity this week’s video is for you.
*In this video, I cover:*
...The definition of gaslighting
...How to know when you are being gaslighted
...Stages of being on the receiving end of gaslighting
...How to accept this reality so you can change it
A few indications that you might be a victim of gaslighting include: constantly second-guessing yourself, feeling confused about what did and did not occur, not telling other people in your life about the conflict in your relationship, constantly apologizing and despite having many positive things in your life, feeling unhappy or depressed.
Drop me a comment and let me know what resonated with you after watching this video.
Get the full Checklist, Signs You Are Being Gaslighted, to understand if this is happening to you: https://www.terricole.com/gas
*Time Stamps:*
0:00 - Intro
1:24 - The definition of gaslighting and what it looks like
2:22 - Indicators that someone is gaslighting you
5:12 - The 3 phases of gaslighting
10:00 - Developing belief in your intuition
11:11 - The only way to win is to escape with your sanity intact
12:30 - Understanding that this is about their need to control you
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